19 thoughts on “19 Reasons Why Nobody Cares About Your Feelings?”

      • According to your list, I am doing everything “right” but I still have no one. The only people who include me in their lives do so when they need something from me, whether money, time, support, whatever. Once they get whatever it is they need from me, they ignore me. The closest thing I have to friends to spend time with is a couple people who every now and then will let me tag along as long as I stay in the background and do exactly what they want. I am never picky about what we do, where we go, who is there, anything. There are things that I would prefer, yes, but no one cares what I want so Ive learned to keep that to myself. If I express anything I want, like “hey, can we go to this restaurant for lunch?” or, “Can we do this activity today?” I either get ignored or they get mad that I expressed an opinion other than theirs. And then they won’t spend time with me anymore. This is not a situation where I just need new friends at this point in life. This has been every person I have had in my life, including my family. How I feel or what I want has never mattered to anyone. All I do is give. I’m completely drained and just want someone to give to me. I don’t want money or stuff, just time and care. I don’t complain about it or ask for it from people because I want people to spend time with me because they like me, not because they feel sorry for me. I’ve always dealt with pain on my own because I know nobody likes a person as unhappy as me. So I keep it to myself. The few people I have thought cared enough for me that I could be somewhat honest with (I’ve never been completely honest with just how alone and empty I am because it would overwhelm anyone) have ignored me as soon as they realized they would have to put forth some effort too. So I’m just honest enough with people to seem like a normal person who has good days and bad days but is generally happy. And if I had just a couple friends that cared about me, I would be that person exactly. But no one sees me as worth any effort…..so I guess I’m just saying, your list isn’t complete, because if it was, I would have people who care about me and want to spend time with me because they genuinely like me, but I don’t. I don’t know what would make it complete, but it’s missing something. Or the alternative is, there are some people that just have no significance and never will no matter what they do. I hope the first is the correct one. But what I have seen in life leans me towards believing the later. If I were to vanish tomorrow, the only living creature that would be impacted emotionally at all would be my dog. I do believe she would miss me.

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        • Hi Dear,
          I understand your situation and got your point. First of all, thank you so much for taking time and expressing your views. I know it takes a lot of effort express oneself fully. I’ll update this article as per your feedback.
          Coming to your query. Most of the people in this world are like this only. People will come to you when they need something from you and that’s a harsh truth. I have been through same situation. But what I have learnt from such phase is that there is difference between being alone and feel lonely.
          Being alone is absolutely fine but feeling lonely is not. What I mean by this?
          If I know about myself in a better way and I am fine with spending time with myself happily then I might be alone but I won’t feel lonely. After such phases, I started exploring about my interests and skills. I started making myself better in those areas. In fact, being alone gives me a lot of time which I can spend with myself. Looking at it from spiritual perspective, it is an amazing opportunity to understand about the basic meaning of life and existence. Not to be sad about it. Rather exploring how life is expressing itself in various forms on this planet.
          Practicing meditation, writing journal, reading good books, autobiographies of great people and thinking about how we can create an impact in our won life and in this world too. Thinking about how we can leave a legacy behind us.
          Always remember, you are awesome. Because you are the only one like you. No one can ever replace you and that’s the beauty.
          I’d love to listen from you.
          God bless you! Cheers!

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    • Hi Maria, thanks for stopping by and reading.
      Nobody is perfect. But the people who are loved, at least they are perfect through the eyes of people who love them. Purpose of the article is not to criticize but to understand how we can be better by identifying what we are doing wrong. I have gone through the same journey myself when I used to think the same way. But working on myself has made things better.

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  1. God this feels like total victim-blaming. People who think this way need support, not another reason to think it’s their fault. It’s true that people need to work on themselves, but they also need help from others especially when they can no longer handle it.

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    • Hi, it would have been great if you had mentioned your name. But I really appreciate sharing your honest view.
      I agree that people need support. But the sooner someone takes the responsibility, the better it becomes. I have been there, done that.
      Purpose of the article is not to criticize but to understand how we can be better by identifying what we are doing wrong. I have gone through the same journey myself when I used to think the same way. I too was seeking help, but honestly, nobody helps except your own self. And when you realise this bitter truth and take the ownership, things start to become better.

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    • I agree with you. People who do any of these things have underlying issues and deserve care and support. Not to be hit with this insensitive article. How ironic. It tells you to be giving to others and compassionate towards them, when the person who created this is being very critical and judgemental of people who feel this way. People who do any of these things are obviously hurt and need help, not this. This has made me so angry.

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      • I can understand you anger. My language might be crude, harsh or critical. I am really sorry for that.
        I agree with you that such people need external support and compassion. I have gone through such phase, myself, faced it and overcame suicidal tendencies.
        What I learnt through all this is that one has to become strong and make personal efforts to overcome it. If you get some sort of support, that’s awesome. But one has to make personal efforts to come out of it. We may agree to disagree.
        Appreciate your honest feedback. Thanks for taking time to stop by. Cheers!

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    • Totally agree with you. This guy speaks in absolutes and doesn’t seem to have any idea about psychology, magnetic attraction between cluster B personalities or how your thoughts can affect your situation.

      He talks about molding yourself so others will love you, yet he can’t even proof read before publishing something.

      Also talking about self-awareness when he can’t even accept criticism. Lol.

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  2. People who are loved aren’t necessarily perfect in the eyes of people who love them. Rather they are accepted and loved despite their flaws.

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  4. Burn in Hell Keshav! Many people are out there with severe mental and physical illness, much of which is incurable! Are these people responsible somehow for their plight? One day you may end up in their place, so don’t blame people for their problems. Who are you to judge?

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    • I can understand your anger. My way of talking might be crude and harsh. I am sorry for that.
      I agree such people may need external support during that phase. I myself has gone through it, faced it and overcame suicidal tendencies.
      What I learnt through all this is that one has to become strong and make personal efforts to overcome it. We may agree to disagree.
      Appreciate your honest feedback. Thanks for taking time to stop by. Cheers!

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