48 thoughts on “19 Reasons Why Nobody Cares About Your Feelings?”

      • According to your list, I am doing everything “right” but I still have no one. The only people who include me in their lives do so when they need something from me, whether money, time, support, whatever. Once they get whatever it is they need from me, they ignore me. The closest thing I have to friends to spend time with is a couple people who every now and then will let me tag along as long as I stay in the background and do exactly what they want. I am never picky about what we do, where we go, who is there, anything. There are things that I would prefer, yes, but no one cares what I want so Ive learned to keep that to myself. If I express anything I want, like “hey, can we go to this restaurant for lunch?” or, “Can we do this activity today?” I either get ignored or they get mad that I expressed an opinion other than theirs. And then they won’t spend time with me anymore. This is not a situation where I just need new friends at this point in life. This has been every person I have had in my life, including my family. How I feel or what I want has never mattered to anyone. All I do is give. I’m completely drained and just want someone to give to me. I don’t want money or stuff, just time and care. I don’t complain about it or ask for it from people because I want people to spend time with me because they like me, not because they feel sorry for me. I’ve always dealt with pain on my own because I know nobody likes a person as unhappy as me. So I keep it to myself. The few people I have thought cared enough for me that I could be somewhat honest with (I’ve never been completely honest with just how alone and empty I am because it would overwhelm anyone) have ignored me as soon as they realized they would have to put forth some effort too. So I’m just honest enough with people to seem like a normal person who has good days and bad days but is generally happy. And if I had just a couple friends that cared about me, I would be that person exactly. But no one sees me as worth any effort…..so I guess I’m just saying, your list isn’t complete, because if it was, I would have people who care about me and want to spend time with me because they genuinely like me, but I don’t. I don’t know what would make it complete, but it’s missing something. Or the alternative is, there are some people that just have no significance and never will no matter what they do. I hope the first is the correct one. But what I have seen in life leans me towards believing the later. If I were to vanish tomorrow, the only living creature that would be impacted emotionally at all would be my dog. I do believe she would miss me.

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        • Hi Dear,
          I understand your situation and got your point. First of all, thank you so much for taking time and expressing your views. I know it takes a lot of effort express oneself fully. I’ll update this article as per your feedback.
          Coming to your query. Most of the people in this world are like this only. People will come to you when they need something from you and that’s a harsh truth. I have been through same situation. But what I have learnt from such phase is that there is difference between being alone and feel lonely.
          Being alone is absolutely fine but feeling lonely is not. What I mean by this?
          If I know about myself in a better way and I am fine with spending time with myself happily then I might be alone but I won’t feel lonely. After such phases, I started exploring about my interests and skills. I started making myself better in those areas. In fact, being alone gives me a lot of time which I can spend with myself. Looking at it from spiritual perspective, it is an amazing opportunity to understand about the basic meaning of life and existence. Not to be sad about it. Rather exploring how life is expressing itself in various forms on this planet.
          Practicing meditation, writing journal, reading good books, autobiographies of great people and thinking about how we can create an impact in our won life and in this world too. Thinking about how we can leave a legacy behind us.
          Always remember, you are awesome. Because you are the only one like you. No one can ever replace you and that’s the beauty.
          I’d love to listen from you.
          God bless you! Cheers!

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        • At times most genuine and honest people like you face such difficulty and I can completely feel the pain that you feel completely abandoned by your family and even worse case when by your own parents. This is nothing to do with you as a person. We all exists on earth by sheer love and compassion from God.. please feel that unconditional love. You could never ever get than from any other human. Please love yourself and then everything fall in place.
          Loads of love and blessings to you!

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        • At times most genuine and honest people like you face such difficulty and I can completely feel the pain that you feel completely abandoned by your family and even worse case when by your own parents. This is nothing to do with you as a person. We all exists on earth by sheer love and compassion from God.. please feel that unconditional love. You could never ever get than from any other human. Please love yourself and then everything fall in place.
          Loads of love and blessings to you!

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        • I’m with you lonely, I personally think this list is not aimed at us and is misleading in its title. Yes, if your operating from a narrative that your the centre of the universe then, yes, it is applicable. If you are subject to ongoing emotional neglect because others are too busy Or if your authentic self doesn’t fit the society you are in then this list is not for you I’m with you. The only thing that will be emotionally impacted will be my dog.

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        • Took me a long time to figure out I’m better off alone. Yeah I hear you; you do everything for everyone else and they don’t care. Well guess what? You’re better off without them…. Their “problems” are exactly that, theirs, not yours. Stop wasting your time and energy on people who don’t give a shit; do something for yourself. Guess what? If someone doesn’t like you it’s not your problem, it’s THEIR problem! Why should you care what someone thinks if they don’t give a shit about you? The best thing you can do and the best present you can ever give yourself is to not give a shit yourself.

          Please note; I didn’t say not give a shit ABOUT yourself, just don’t give a shit that nobody else does. It’s THEIR problem, not yours!!! Don’t take on responsibility for other people’s problems or flaws; there’s nothing you can do about that! Don’t cast your pearls before swine; do something for someone worthy; YOU!!!

          I hate to say this but you have to beat the world at its own game and not give a shit too. Otherwise you’ll be jousting every windmill you come across.

          Why do something for people who don’t deserve or appreciate it?! Why waste your time with people like that?!

          You are the only person that can make you happy, nobody else can, trust me. You’ll just drive yourself nuts and end up with endless disappointment if you put your happiness in other people’s hands.

          The harsh truth is; people suck! Yes, the are selfish heartless bastards and only seem to care about people who don’t care. Let the mindless masses worship their own selfishness and do something for yourself cause Lord knows…..nobody else will.

          Give a shit less about others and more about yourself. I REALLY hate to say that but it’s the only way to survive.

          Stop expecting people to be human. Tables don’t turn into chairs and things either work or they don’t. Stop investing effort in relationships that don’t work.

          “You can lead a horse to water but you’ll never be able to convince him he’s really a jackass…“

          -Me 2018

          Screw those people; blow them out of your life like a turd out your ass because they are truly shit! (Seriously though, they are; why waste your time).

          Sure, give people a chance but feel free and be ready to flush at any time. There’s a lot to be said for being a “Soup Nazi”.

          Someone wants to be a selfish assole?

          “NO soup for you……NEXT!!!”

          😉

          (Ps, that isn’t my real name or email address 😉 )

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        • I almost forgot; not only do they not care about you, they don’t care about each other….

          Now I know what you’re saying and you think they do but they actually don’t. Under the right circumstances they’ll abandon each other. I’ve seen it happen and these people were close for almost 50 years. The irony of this is I had just recent thought that, “If ________had a problem, there would be some type of intersection” only for that to actually happen and everyone ran away from this guy. The thing is, he REALLY needed help and these were the people most likely to help him. It was at that point I realized it wasn’t anything personal with me. Sure, they were closer to him than me but they still abandoned him when he needed them most. Don’t worry about these selfish people; blow them out of your life!

          Listen, even people that truest love you are selfish fuckers, so don’t worry about it. Their selfishness is not your problem .

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    • Hi Maria, thanks for stopping by and reading.
      Nobody is perfect. But the people who are loved, at least they are perfect through the eyes of people who love them. Purpose of the article is not to criticize but to understand how we can be better by identifying what we are doing wrong. I have gone through the same journey myself when I used to think the same way. But working on myself has made things better.

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  1. God this feels like total victim-blaming. People who think this way need support, not another reason to think it’s their fault. It’s true that people need to work on themselves, but they also need help from others especially when they can no longer handle it.

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    • Hi, it would have been great if you had mentioned your name. But I really appreciate sharing your honest view.
      I agree that people need support. But the sooner someone takes the responsibility, the better it becomes. I have been there, done that.
      Purpose of the article is not to criticize but to understand how we can be better by identifying what we are doing wrong. I have gone through the same journey myself when I used to think the same way. I too was seeking help, but honestly, nobody helps except your own self. And when you realise this bitter truth and take the ownership, things start to become better.

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      • I guess that could be true to a point. I come from a group of people that shit on me and everyone else. They alienated me from everyone. I mean people can only do so much “improvement”. People will always find reasons to shit on you from my experience.

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    • I agree with you. People who do any of these things have underlying issues and deserve care and support. Not to be hit with this insensitive article. How ironic. It tells you to be giving to others and compassionate towards them, when the person who created this is being very critical and judgemental of people who feel this way. People who do any of these things are obviously hurt and need help, not this. This has made me so angry.

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      • I can understand you anger. My language might be crude, harsh or critical. I am really sorry for that.
        I agree with you that such people need external support and compassion. I have gone through such phase, myself, faced it and overcame suicidal tendencies.
        What I learnt through all this is that one has to become strong and make personal efforts to overcome it. If you get some sort of support, that’s awesome. But one has to make personal efforts to come out of it. We may agree to disagree.
        Appreciate your honest feedback. Thanks for taking time to stop by. Cheers!

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    • Totally agree with you. This guy speaks in absolutes and doesn’t seem to have any idea about psychology, magnetic attraction between cluster B personalities or how your thoughts can affect your situation.

      He talks about molding yourself so others will love you, yet he can’t even proof read before publishing something.

      Also talking about self-awareness when he can’t even accept criticism. Lol.

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  2. People who are loved aren’t necessarily perfect in the eyes of people who love them. Rather they are accepted and loved despite their flaws.

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  4. Burn in Hell Keshav! Many people are out there with severe mental and physical illness, much of which is incurable! Are these people responsible somehow for their plight? One day you may end up in their place, so don’t blame people for their problems. Who are you to judge?

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    • I can understand your anger. My way of talking might be crude and harsh. I am sorry for that.
      I agree such people may need external support during that phase. I myself has gone through it, faced it and overcame suicidal tendencies.
      What I learnt through all this is that one has to become strong and make personal efforts to overcome it. We may agree to disagree.
      Appreciate your honest feedback. Thanks for taking time to stop by. Cheers!

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  5. You’ve made some decent points there. I looked on the internet for more info about the issue and found most people will go along with your views on this site.|

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  6. Thanks Keshav for this. Everything is making sense to me now. But sometimes, the fault comes from the other side , not us. Some people never gon’ appreciate you no matter what you do.

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  7. I heard a phrase many years ago that stuck with me. “If I am not part of the problem, there is no solution.” We do have to take a hard look at how we’re contributing to the issue, even if it is recognizing we could need treatment for a mental health condition or recognizing we are unrealistic about our expectations of others. That’s what has led me to find your article.

    I have been feeling like my husband’s family doesn’t care about me after asking them to do something small for them to – just write an email to a new email account I created so that I can keep all of them up to date on my husband’s health. Saves me from having to recreate an address book (makes it easier on me) and makes sure I have the email address they want me to use. I always help his family when they call me with questions, so I thought I was making a reasonable request. Turns out I was wrong. I was asking for too much effort on their part.

    So I have to agree with the bulk of your article. I can see myself at different times in different scenarios of what you describe. In this case, I wanted people to act a certain way (#14) and they did not, which resulted in nasty posts on FB that accessed my (#6) emotional over-reactivity.

    People in general don’t truly, deeply care they way we want them to, and that’s the key. I have to accept the depth of caring they have for me, whether deep or shallow, and focus on the things I enjoy doing and the people I feel true connection with (not many), and learn to be ok with that. Thank you for writing that the answer isn’t easy and it isn’t just be more positive.

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  8. Hey there! This post could not be written any better! Reading this post reminds me of my previous room mate!

    He always kept chatting about this. I will forward this write-up to him.
    Fairly certain he will have a good read. Many thanks
    for sharing!

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  9. I see some contradictions in your article. I see some points but sometimes fitting in is not worth it. People will always fond something wrong with you or some flaws.

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    • Thanks Jane for sharing views. Yes, we don’t need to fit in always. First, we need to be comfortable and kind with ourselves.

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    • I haven’t taken done any Professional course yet. Whatever I have learnt till now is based on my own personal experience.

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      • yeah i get people may have undesirable traits but none of what you said makes sense? you literally are telling people that if they have NORMAL problems and EMOTIONS that it makes sense they are unloved and feel unloved? You should not be posting things like this unless you are a professional, which you stated you are not. Remove this post. You dont deserve to post things on the internet. i would slap you if I could

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  11. I like this article.
    It is a hard cold fact of life, people!
    The problem is, sometimes it takes a while before someone is ready to see their flaws. They will see themselves as the victim or the one that is mistreated until they realize that if they stopped looking for someone to care, and started caring about themselves, the feeling would pass, and before they know it they may actually be enjoying themselves.
    But then, sometimes we just don’t feel good. We are icky inside, headache, sore, tired, and overwhelmed with no home, have to move out of current space, wishing for a positive upbeat day to get things done, and — nope. This is the way we wake up. We simply can’t bring it to the table, we are exhausted. Emotionally, physically, spiritually, and mentally.
    All I wanted today was to actually feel good within myself. Because I didn’t, I found myself becoming more needy of others to reach out to me. When I couldn’t seem to get any response, I fell farther into my self pity. Which is where I was when I found your article.

    The reality, people, is this. If you don’t like what this man has to say, then stop reading it, and go the hell away. If you don’t like that he isn’t a professional, mind your own business, and go away. The internet isn’t solely for professional people, stop commenting just to be rude! It takes a lot to put your information out there. It takes a lot of courage to have an opinion that others don’t share. If you don’t share his opinion, go the hell away and shut up. Find the answers you want to hear elsewhere!!! But don’t demean the man because you don’t agree! Shame on all of you that would rather insult a person than to just click another article. He is a blogger. He has a right to his opinion, and to be honest, he is right. RIGHT!!
    It takes maturity to learn the hard facts of life.

    Paula

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    • Hey Paula, thank you so much for supporting me. You are right in saying this is the real life which people often seem to ignore.
      We all have fancy ideals about life where we imagine people to be always nice to us and care about our feelings. Most of the people keep on seeking approval from others. But when the reality hits hard, they are not ready to take it. But that’s the crude reality of life. I really appreciate for sharing your views and understanding my viewpoint. And don’t worry about what others are saying. I really don’t care. If my writings are helping even one person to understand the reality and I am happy 🙂

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  12. I regularly feel like no one cares about me. I think one thing that needs mentioning is those of us in the spectrum can try really hard to make friends but don’t have the ‘body language’ tools that neurotypicals seem to have who seem to breeze through this stuff.

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    • Hey, don’t worry about others. Just be comfortable with yourself first and acknowledge the fact that you are awesome. Make efforts to become better day after day.

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